On a Sunday evening while I was sipping my coffee on my balcony looking at the setting sun, I received a call from a young girl who was a little worried and concerned about the state of her mother.
Bini Varghese was going through a very tough phase in her life. If you are a married woman and have spent years in the kitchen taking care of your husband and children then you will definitely relate a lot with the story of this homemaker. Bini’s family is financially well off, all her 3 children were doing awesome in their careers and her husband was in a well reputed job in the middle east. You may then think, what is the problem that she has got?
Bini was going through depression, mid life crisis and identity crisis. These terms are real and when you don’t find any meaning in your life then your life seems empty and you start feeling depressed and you will hit rock bottom in no time. She had forgotten to laugh and she was utterly dejected with the fact that she has not accomplished anything in her life. If this looks and sounds familiar to you then you are not alone and Magic of Change is there to help you and train you how to come out of your depression, mid life crisis, low self esteem and identity crisis.
On November 14th, 2018 Bini Varghese was baptized into the world of NLP training in Cochin. On this children’s day Mohammed Rafi welcomed Bini Varghese to the Magic of Change family and tribe. First thing Bini asked Rafi – What is NLP?
Rafi said – “The technical abbreviation is Neuro Linguistic Programming. However I call it “NEW LIFE PROGRAM” This definition gave Bini a ray of hope because she has never heard or read such a definition for NLP and NLP training. And Rafi has been doing NLP training in different cities across India for more than 15 years now.We have done NLP training in Cochin, Mumbai, Chennai, Hyderabad, Bangalore, Pune, Kolkata, Trivandrum, Delhi, Dubai, Qatar, London and have given NLP training for more than 100 thousand people from different walks of life. The success stories weaved by Rafi made Bini feel at ease because she knew that she was in safe hands.
Bini firmly believed that she was good for nothing. In NLP training a masterful trainer’s duty is to break this limiting belief of his students. And Rafi broke it by saying that she has a great dressing sense. Bini’s eyes rolled up for a moment and she said – “Yes I take special care in choosing my costumes and accessories.” This was an aha moment for Bini because she realized that she is good at one thing. When a person realizes that they are good at something and you can give them an objectively verifiable reference point then it boosts their self esteem instantly. Next, Rafi asked Bini to dance and hearing this she was shell shocked and she said that it’s impossible for me to dance. Rafi did a deep reframing and reprogramming which enabled Bini to stand up and dance after almost 30 years, which was the last time she danced during her college days.
And when an individual is going through depression they are typically operating out of tunnel vision. When you are operating out of tunnel vision your brain prevents you from seeing the possibilities and opportunities that lie ahead of you because the brain is releasing stress hormones called cortisol and epinephrine at that point of time. Rafi asked Bini to start widening her peripheral vision and Bini”s state shifted instantly. This was truly a surprising moment for the remaining 24 participants who were attending that NLP practitioner training at Cochin. If you want to learn how to come out of depression and anxiety then you need to give exercises and activities to your brain so that the brain releases happiness hormones like endorphins, serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine. Peak performance exercises that we teach in our NLP Practitioner and NLP Master Practitioner workshops are exclusively designed by Dr. John Grinder to help people operate from a Peak performance mindset where your creative brain operates at its best and you will automatically develop the ability to see the opportunities and possibilities in your life.
Once Bini started practicing the Peak performance exercises and started changing her submodalities her face started to glow and there was a spark in her eyes which the fellow participants who were attending the NLP practitioner training with her could recognize. And Bini has learned the skills to come out of her depression. Now, she needed to get out of her identity crisis and midlife crisis. Erik Eriskon was the one who coined the term identity crisis. He was of the opinion that when people don’t have a meaningful identity they feel lost. We all have natural identities like son, daughter, father, mother, uncle, aunt and so on and so forth. Now, there is another set of identities like Coach, Doctor, Scientist, Healer and many more. This is our professional identity and also these identities help you in deriving the meaning of your life.
Bini discovered that her passion is in inspiring the youth and children. In the NLP Master Practitioner training held at Bangalore in March 2019 Rafi helped Bini to map her new identity which was aligned with her core value of bringing transformation to the lives of children and youth. She was mentored by Rafi and under the guidance of Rafi and Magic of Change Bini went on to become a Psychologist and International trainer. Today she has successfully trained and mentored more than 1000 students in India and Saudi Arabia.
Bini has conquered her depression and has also successfully come out of her identity crisis and midlife crisis. And you could be the next. If you are suffering from any of these then just get in touch with the Magic of Change team right now and see how your life transforms magically.